Boundaries on dating
Learn how to think, solve problems, enjoy the benefits of dating to the hilt, and increase your ability to find and commit to a marriage partner.
Boundaries in Dating reveals the path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy in the dating process.
Examples: A go-with-the-flow neighbor stops by unannounced on a Saturday afternoon just to chat, not realizing that you have time blocked your weekend in half hour increments in order to fit in all your plans. It takes introverts longer to figure out what to say, so it helps if the extravert pauses or asks follow-up questions every now and then. 🙂 If someone unintentionally crosses my boundaries all the time, it’s usually a sign that this person isn’t a great match for me.
Consequently my scant introverting time is protected with 10-foot tall brick walls, barbed wire, and hunky body guards walking around with machine guns.
I’m 47 years old and just getting to that place where I totally accept and embrace me. I don’t like interruptions and I don’t like sudden changes in plans.
I don’t feel bad to refuse invitations to social events nor do I feel bad to just turn away and be quiet in social gatherings. But there’s still a bit of sadness when people ‘accuse’ me of ‘not wanting to go anywhere’ or call me boring. There are certain circumstances where I might enjoy spontaneity, but even that has to be planned in advance.
But even as an adult I struggle with saying no to people and doing what is best for me.” “I would love to see your take on having boundaries – particularly when it comes to difficult people or people you cannot simply eject from your life… And because I had no boundaries, my life had spilled out of my control. Setting boundaries puts you in charge of writing the rules.
I find having one incident or fall out with a boundary pusher can wipe me out for days sometimes. Setting boundaries is key to living an intentional life.