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You're not responsible for anyone else's feelings but your own.You can't control what other people are going to think or how they're going to react to what you tell them.It puts too much responsibility on a person to protect another's ego and feelings at the expense of their own." Instead, Cooper advises to acknowledge the request, express gratitude, and decline the invitation clearly and firmly."People have to learn that they are not obligated to go out with anyone just because they ask," Cooper says.Since apologizing isn't the way to go, here are better ways to turn down someone who likes you.."It's great to express your appreciation that they had the guts to ask you out in the first place," Wiley says. Letting them know you are flattered they asked is also a nice way to soften the blow of rejection." If a friend asks you out but you're not interested in taking it to that level, that can definitely make things awkward.Researchers conducted two follow-up experiments and found that not only do rejected people feel worse after being given a "pity" apology, they're also likely to feel like they have to forgive the rejector before they're ready.One experiment even found that hidden feelings of resentment may even cause the rejected to seek out subtle forms of revenge.
Gili Freedman was more interested in examining the rejector.
"When someone apologizes for rejecting another person it's like a one-two punch," NYC-based Relationship and Wellness Coach, Shula Melamed, MA, MPH tells Bustle. Then, the person rejecting you is offering you some pity through an apology?
." In fact, researchers from Dartmouth College recently conducted a study on social rejection.
I never really had the guts or opprotunity to do so. And if you want to be a little more about this online dating thing, Interracial Dating Central is the official dating site for this blog. It is amazing and life changing being around people that think the same way that I do in regards to trying to be better.
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